Do you imagine a tall, strapping man with big arms and a cowboy hat? Or do you imagine a clean-shaven, studious man with a scholarly brow and a pinstripe suit? Or do you even have an image of him in your mind at all?
Whatever your vision of his physical appearance, how do you see him? His heart. His character. His personality?
Do you ever see qualities in other people that you would really like in a husband?
Here's an idea: write a husband list.
When you see a something you admire in someone and you think, "Gosh, I would love my husband to have that quality", write it on your husband list. If it matters to you, it doesn't matter how silly it may sound. Write it down.
A lady in my church made a list of things she would like in a husband. One of the things she wanted was that he would eat anything. At first, it sounded like a silly thing to ask for but the more I thought of it the more I realized what an excellent quality that is. And do you know what? God answered her prayer. Everything on her list He put into her husband before they met.
My Mum told me years ago to start a husband list. It now stretches a mile. They're all things that are important to me. Things I could respect and look up to.
Now that you've started your list you can take it before God. When you lift up your future husband in prayer, bring your list before God as well. Pray for the things on that list. I'm not saying He'll always answer everything on your list, but now you have brought the desires of your heart before God, He will choose the ones He wants in your husband.
Do you realize that creating a husband list can help you guard your heart? Take that charming guy at church and match him up to your list. Don't change your list to match him. If he doesn't match up then keep your heart to yourself. God will let you know if he is right for you in due time but for now, you have a clear indicator that he probably isn't what you're looking for and you can stop yourself before giving away your heart.
As girls, it's built into us to want a place of our own to fuss and cluck over. And if you want to get married, chances are you are already matching up the guys you meet with the qualities you want in a husband. By making a husband list you are just more clearly defining what those things are.
Do you already have a husband list? What are some things on it? If you have had experience with a husband list we would love to hear about it.
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